Things We Are Taught To Settle For

•November 23, 2020 • Leave a Comment

As a young Black girl, in the late 70s, when I was in 5th grade, I remember one day our teacher gave us a lecture about how they’d done a study and learned that girls, and especially Black girls, were not learning as well because we teachers ignored our raised hands in class. This was an early lesson in privilege. Little white boys learned that if they raised their hands, their questions would be answered. Black girls learned ours would be ignored, and eventually we stopped raising our hands. We were taught not to occupy space.

Mom, me, and my grandmother on the beach when I was a toddler in 1970 or 71 (Los Angeles)

When the society sends out messages telling you that you aren’t to occupy space, and other people have been subliminally indoctrinated to treat you as though you don’t deserve to occupy as much space, time and attention – then you have to counter stereotypes of the “loud” and “aggressive” Black woman, which are designed to double down on the idea that you should be sidelined, less important, and all things should be centered around men and white people, particularly white men, but also white women in groups of women white center.

My Black mother talked to me in my 20s about additional stereotypes white culture has for mixed race Black women, as a Trojan horse hidden usurper who was still vilified even if white people stole the estate she rightfully inherited from her father (Bertha Mason), tragic mulatto, white passing pretender (Imitation of Life). She taught me that the Uppity Black Girl stereotypes also clung to Uppity Yellow Girls, and that the cred checking, and treating me as though I was undeserving were a part of the macroculture, which taught Black women to settle for crumbs from its table.So my parents taught me to hold my head up high and act just as entitled as the American macroculture, doing my best to ignore those who resented me feeling equal.

Consent > Confidentiality

•November 23, 2020 • Leave a Comment

Last night I had occasion to give my “consent is greater than confidentiality” lecture once again. Kevin Spacey is an extremely high profile example of why this is true. For three decades, Spacey took advantage of people’s moral positions about protecting closeted people’s identities to hide his sexual misconduct and abuse of minors.

A person who has been a victim of sexual abuse has the right to out their victimizer, period. The victimizer’s closeted status as a queer or a kinky person is NEVER greater than the victim’s rights.

Closeting has LONG been a construct that protects abusers in situations where they have more power than the people they abuse.These situations include: cismen dating transwomen in closet situations who commit domestic violence, economic abuse, and sexual violence; child molesters and statutory rapists, closeted bisexual people in down-low relationships with gay/lesbian partners who commit domestic violence, economic abuse, and sexual violence. Grown men who hire underage transgender prostitutes do not have a right to protection from “outing” when it is used to pressure said transgirls into silence and sweep the abuse of underage transwomen under the rug.

The kink community should follow the LGBTQ community’s example and begin to explicitly make the right to closeting / not be outed a right of considerably lesser magnitude than the right to protection from economic, sexual, and domestic abuse.

To refuse to do so is to allow passing privilege to continue to make the most marginalized and vulnerable people unsafe. Further, and this is very important: Transpeople and gay people and lesbians do not OWE IT to straight passing cis people to be available for clandestine hook-ups or down-low relationships and don’t have to “settle for” that kind of relationship, and are allowed to want the same respect and social clout as straight to straight passing people who are in socially condoned mainstream relationships. Queer people in closeted relationships are at a lot greater risk for psychological, physical, emotional, and economic abuse.

Tonight at 7pm Halloween HYDRA Reading!

•October 31, 2020 • Leave a Comment

Association of Black and Brown Writers presents:

The HYDRA returns for one night only. Halloween night. The night of the full Hunter’s Moon with horror stories from Audrey T. WilliamsThaddeus Howze, Elwin Cotman, Lynn Brown, Paul Corman-Roberts, Reggie Peralta, Sumiko Saulson, and Ebony Williams.

https://www.facebook.com/events/1027109401044472/

The Hydra: A Series for Experimental, Flash, Sci-Fi, and Horror Writers and the People Who Love Them is returning for a Halloween special with EIGHT readers who are going to do their best to shock and startle the audience.Those of you who are new this series may not know the lore of this HYDRA, the beast that sleeps under mouth Diablo. Every so often the beast stirs and it needs to be lulled back to sleep with stories. You may have felt the HYDRA stirring in the tiny earthquakes in the dead of night, or in the embers that are beginning to escape its nostrils and ignite the land like a gender reveal of godly proportions.On Halloween night EIGHT brave readers will venture into the den of the beast to read it their stories under the Hunter’s/Blue Moon. And hopefully their sacrifices will silence the beast in mountain, and it’s lava-skinned cousin in the Alabaster Mansion.

The wonderous line-up includes:

Audrey T. Williams
Ebony Williams
Elwin Michael Cotman
Lynn Brown
Paul Corman Roberts
Reggie Peralta
Sumiko Saulson
Thaddeus Howze

Curated and hosted by Trey Keeve (Vernon Keeve III).

https://www.facebook.com/events/1027109401044472/

Ben Monroe’s Tale of Horror

•October 29, 2020 • Leave a Comment
Today Tales of Horror debuts Ben Monroe, reading from “Scritch Scratch”.

October opens with horror writers reading from their scary works for the Fourth Annual Tales of Horror, a collaboration between San Mateo Public Library and HorrorAddicts.net. Subscribe to the City of San Mateo’s YouTube channel to see and hear costumed HorrorAddict authors put you in the mood for Halloween all month! Today Tales of Horror debuts Ben Monroe, reading from “Scritch Scratch”.

Ben Monroe

Check out all of the authors Tales of Horror! Emerian Rich (October 1), Loren Rhoads (October 5), RL Merrill (October 8), me, Sumiko Saulson (October 12), Alanna McFall (October 15), Jonathan Fortin (October 19), Laurel Anne Hill (October 22), Jay Hartlove (October 26), and Ben Monroe (October 29). Today was the last day, and now ALL of them are available on the San Mateo County Library Youtube and Web Page.

Tales of Horror – Jay Hartlove reads “The Gift”

•October 26, 2020 • Leave a Comment

Tales of Horror Jay Hartlove reads “The Gift” debuts today!

October opens with horror writers reading from their scary works for the Fourth Annual Tales of Horror, a collaboration between San Mateo Public Library and HorrorAddicts.net. Subscribe to the City of San Mateo’s YouTube channel to see and hear costumed HorrorAddict authors put you in the mood for Halloween all month!

Check out all of the authors Tales of Horror! Emerian Rich (October 1), Loren Rhoads (October 5), RL Merrill (October 8), me, Sumiko Saulson (October 12), Alanna McFall (October 15), Jonathan Fortin (October 19), Laurel Anne Hill (October 22), Jay Hartlove (October 26), and Ben Monroe (October 29).

Tale of Horror debuts Laurel Anne Hill Today

•October 22, 2020 • Leave a Comment

The San Mateo County Library’s Tales of Horror presents Laurel Anne Hill reading “Till Death Do Us Part” from Horrible Disasters, debuting today.

October opens with horror writers reading from their scary works for the Fourth Annual Tales of Horror, a collaboration between San Mateo Public Library and HorrorAddicts.net. Subscribe to the City of San Mateo’s YouTube channel to see and hear costumed HorrorAddict authors put you in the mood for Halloween all month!

The entire series debuts in this order: Emerian Rich (October 1), Loren Rhoads (October 5), RL Merrill (October 8), me, Sumiko Saulson (October 12), Alanna McFall (October 15), Jonathan Fortin (October 19), Laurel Anne Hill (October 22), Jay Hartlove (October 26), and Ben Monroe (October 29).

Chilling Chat Special: Authors of SLAY – Sumiko Saulson

•October 20, 2020 • Leave a Comment

So thrilled to be a party of SLAY: Tales of the Vampire Noir and a part of this interview series about the anthology!

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Sumiko Saulson is an award-winning author of Afrosurrealist and multicultural sci-fi and horror. Zhe is the editor of the anthologies and collections Black Magic Women, Scry of Sumiko Saulson Mixy AwardLust, Black Celebration, and Wickedly Abled. Zhe is the winner of the 2016 HWA StokerCon “Scholarship from Hell”, 2017 BCC Voice “Reframing the Other” contest, and 2018 AWW “Afrosurrealist Writer Award.”
Zhe has an AA in English from Berkeley City College, and writes a column called “Writing While Black” for a national Black Newspaper, the San Francisco Bay View.

NTK: How old were you when you discovered horror?

SS: Both of my parents were huge horror fans. They played horror movies and television programs in the home when I was a kid. My mom got mad at my dad for taking her to see Rosemary’s Baby when she was eight months pregnant with me. Her favorite TV series was Dark Shadows, and she watched…

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Jonathan Fortin on Tales of Horror with Lilitu

•October 19, 2020 • Leave a Comment

October opens with horror writers reading from their scary works for the Fourth Annual Tales of Horror, a collaboration between San Mateo Public Library and HorrorAddicts.net. Subscribe to the City of San Mateo’s YouTube channel to see and hear costumed HorrorAddict authors put you in the mood for Halloween all month!

Today the San Mateo County Library debuts on Tales of Horror, Jonathan Fortin reading from Lilitu: The Memoirs of a Succubus. The full line-up is Emerian Rich (October 1), Loren Rhoads (October 5), RL Merrill (October 8), me, Sumiko Saulson (October 12), Alanna McFall (October 15), Jonathan Fortin (October 19), Laurel Anne Hill (October 22), Jay Hartlove (October 26), and Ben Monroe (October 29).

Alanna McFall on Tales of Horror

•October 14, 2020 • Leave a Comment

Tales of Horror presents Alanna McFall’s “The Traveling Triple-C Incorporeal Circus” – Alanna McFall is a writer who specializes in the paranormal and fantasy, and whose debut novel, The Traveling Triple-C Incorporeal Circus, came out on June 4th, 2019 with Atthis Arts

October opens with horror writers reading from their scary works for the Fourth Annual Tales of Horror, a collaboration between San Mateo Public Library and HorroAddicts.net. View the videos posted to this page or subscribe to the City of San Mateo’s YouTube channel to see and hear costumed HorrorAddict authors put you in the mood for Halloween all month!

The full line-up is Emerian Rich (October 1), Loren Rhoads (October 5), RL Merrill (October 8), me, Sumiko Saulson (October 12), Alanna McFall (October 15), Jonathan Fortin (October 19), Laurel Anne Hill (October 22), Jay Hartlove (October 26), and Ben Monroe (October 29).

The Sum of Us

•October 14, 2020 • Leave a Comment

I miss you when you’re gone

Though I know it won’t be long

Until you’re here again, near again

Face to face, skin to skin

Your charms in my arms

The addition of you unto me

Bringing satisfaction

That lasts for days past

The eventual subtraction

Attraction to the scent of you

As of fresh vegetables blended

And warm snuggly puppies

My skin warm and flushing

As soon as you touch me

Blushing, kissing, caressing

Just being near you is

One of life’s best things

This isn’t so much me now

As it is the sum of us

This we I am when I am with you

And we begin our dance anew